How do I marry an Amish girl?
Christopher Snyder
Updated on February 16, 2026
Marriage in the Amish community is seen as a passage into adulthood. To get married in the Amish community, members must be baptized in the church. Outsiders, non-Amish, or 'English', as they call the rest of the world, are not permitted to marry within the Amish community.
Do Amish get to pick who they marry?
Folk and country songs are also sung. Unmarried Amish choose their own husbands/wives, and the woman is very much involved in the process. Courtship often begins with a young man transporting a young woman to and from one of the many singings or Sunday worship.How can you tell if an Amish woman is married?
White BonnetsIn most cases, the only time you see an Amish woman wearing a white bonnet is after she is married. It's essentially a symbol that she is a lifelong relation and “off the market” so to speak. If a man sees an Amish woman wearing a white bonnet, he will know that she's already married.